Friday, December 10, 2010
is perception reality?
Because it is not.
Perception is not reality. Perception is just that – what you think or perceive to be happening. Guess what? You could be wrong. Really. Just because you think it is so, doesn’t not make it so. Sometimes you need a reality check. Can I get a witness? Sheesh.
The only times this phrase holds water is if you are completely out to lunch, unable to comprehend this and there is nobody around with enough sense or compassion to help you pull your head out of your own derriere. I often think that doomsayers fall into the “perception is reality” pit. It helps them feel in control of their universe – as if by assuming the worst, you have made it so. No surprises – everything sucks, no bones about it, yay I win!! Should the situation not turn into the sh!t show you declared it would, you say “oh yeah, well, I’m prepared for the other shoe to drop”. What does that even mean?
I got to thinking that my own personal situation could be looked at in a few different ways. I have a son with Autism. There is no clear answer as to how independent a life he will be able to lead. I could look at that and think “oh my god, I am trapped. I am going to have to care for this child for the rest of my life.” I would be lying if I sometimes don’t get overwhelmed by this thought. When I start down that path, I pull myself back into the here and now. Nobody knows what our future holds. Max may be able to live an independent life. Perhaps if he needs support he would prefer to live in an assisted living situation. Or maybe he will live with me for the rest of my life. The situation will unfold as it will, one day at a time, and I will deal with it as it comes. So far I have been able to handle everything that life has thrown at me (not always gracefully mind you, but most days I give it my best).
How you choose to perceive something can be positive or negative. Whatever you decide, that does not change reality. All that changes is how you feel about it.